What are the Five Love Languages?

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13 février 2019 - Evelien Martin-Brulleman, Chaplain, Personnel Services, 2nd Canadian Division Support Group

The month of February is the month of Love. We celebrate Valentine’s Day! It’s always enjoyable to show our love in different ways to our husband, spouse, partner, friend, children and parents. There is a saying that states: It’s better to give then to receive!
To love and to be loved is essential for all humans, without it we become miserable. Many are searching for real love and for others it can be a challenge to express their feelings.

Every married person would like to live with a happy spouse. When we get married, we intend to make each other happy but many feel that they have failed and they don’t know what to do. Some blame their spouse, and others blame themselves.

Often we hear: “I feel like he doesn’t love me anymore!” Some say “I am not able to stay in this relationship without love and romance.” In some way, relationships can be compared to plants; if you don’t give it proper care and attention, it will die.

In the book “The Five Love Languages”, written by Gary Chapman, we learn how to effectively love another person. Each person demonstrates and receives love in a different way, or a different “love language”. And every individual has one they prefer above the others, and this one becomes their primary love language. 

The Five Love Languages

Word of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, compliments mean the world to you! Positive words even can build up or break the other. It will help the person to feel really loved and cherished in their relationship. These persons need to hear “I love you”. Actions aren’t enough for him or her. 

In the book “The Five Love Languages”, written by Gary Chapman, we learn how to effectively love another person.

Acts of Service
Can helping with the dishes, or cleaning up the garage really be an expression of love? Absolutely! There are many persons who would love to hear ‘‘Let me do that for you”!
The person who needs to receive this love language will really feel loved if you help her with doing the homework for the kids, the vacuum cleaner and so many more! When others serve you out of love, you feel truly valued and loved.

Receiving Gifts
Who doesn’t love to receive gifts? Especially at Valentine’s Day… The person who needs to receive this love language likes small attentions not only on a special day but all through the year. Gifts will show how much the other cares, which is paramount in any healthy relationship.
Try giving something that will show the importance of your love one; a pricey item is not necessarily the right gift…

Quality Time
Quality time says it all. Don’t look on your cell phone during a romantic supper! Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. The person with this love language loves to be taken out at Valentine’s Day and to feel the other is really interested in what he or she feels and thinks.

Physical Touch
Physical touch is so important to feel loved! But it must be done with respect and in appropriate moments. Physical touch can be done in many different ways. You have to find out what your loved one appreciates the most. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love.

For Valentine’s Day

It’s not enough to love your spouse. The real question is, does your spouse feel your love?
A happy spouse is one who feels loved!

For Valentine’s Day I encourage you to find out what love language your special person has and how you can make her or him feel truly loved.

Where does love comes from? As a Padre I believe love comes from God. God is Love! God is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us. When you are searching for real love, He will give it to you. If you need help loving your spouse, then ask God to help you. His love is perfect and nothing can separate us from His love.